Two Must Do’s to Lose Weight

Love Your BodyIt’s always interesting to me when I teach my weight loss class or work with individuals to see how much people hate their bodies.

We want our body to be a certain size, weight, or to have a certain level of health and vitality. When it doesn’t, we turn on it. Calling ourselves names, refusing to look at a full body image in the mirror, and having a general disgust with ourselves is common.

The problem with this is that it pits the part of us that desires change against our body. We create a defensive and defiant body. It will go along with the food and physical activity changes we start for a while, but frequently rebels by sabotaging our efforts later on.

I believe that there is a two-step process to begin a shift in how we feel about ourselves:

1. Accept our body as it is, right now. That frightens some, because they believe that if they lighten up on the relentless inner critic, they will not stick to a new food plan.  Au contraire – when we make peace with our health, body, weight, clothing size, it opens up a new energy pattern that actually helps get our body on board.

2. Sit down and have a chat with your body and befriend it. Imagine it sitting across from you. Begin to talk to it by acknowledging that both your body and mind are responsible for the shape you are in. Next, apologize to your wonderful body for all the verbal and physical abuse (as in never exercising it much or forcing down that second helping). Last, begin to discover what you can like/love about your body right now. Example: Thank you for my eyes that can see gorgeous sunsets, beautiful flowers, joyful children, amazing movies.

Celebrate February and Valentine’s Day by beginning to love you and your body as-is.

Listen to a guided meditation leading you through the body chat exercise on the home page.

Counter Negative Thoughts with Positive Thoughts

Your Body Hears Your Negative Thoughts

Your body hears everything your mind says. Stay positive!

Did you ever stop to consider that your body may be eavesdropping on your mind?

This coming week, try to counter every negative thought with at least one positive one.

When you find yourself thinking something negative, stop and think, how would I help get a friend out of this funk and then apply it to yourself.

Remember that the goal is health, not image. If you value yourself enough to take care of your physical health, you should be taking care of your mental health and self-esteem as well.

How do you curb the negative talk?

Do you find yourself being overly critical of yourself?

Live Foods Vs. Dead Foods

kicking habitsMy dieting days ended a while back and since then food has changed its meaning in my life. I used to think that there were two food groups: good foods and diet foods. Good foods were processed, fast foods, high in sugar, fat and salt. They always tasted SOOOOOOO good. Put out a bowl of fresh cut up cantaloupe and a bowl of Cheetos … and there was no contest. The Cheetos won every time.

I noticed that when my daughter had the melon out, her then 2-year-old was happy with the cantaloupe. Somehow some Cheetos appeared and after one bite, my 2-year-old grandson wouldn’t go near the melon again. Why? It’s what’s in it, that’s why.

Lots of studies are now out about food and what’s in food products. We now know a little more as to why we “can’t stop eating ‘em.” They have been lab designed to become what’s called hyperpalatable foods. These are salty, fatty, or sweet foods that can create similar brain response as seen in people addicted to drugs.

“It’s something that has been engineered so that it is fattier and saltier and more novel to the point where our body, brain, and pleasure centers react to it more strongly that if we were to eating, say, a handful of nuts,” Ashley Gearhardt, an assistant professor of clinical psychology at the University of Michigan told the Chicago Tribune of junk food. “Going along with that, we are seeing those classic signs of addiction, the cravings and loss of control and preoccupation with it.”

Maybe we know this information and maybe it’s the first time we have heard about this, but the question now is: How can I move away from eating these dead and addictive foods to foods that actually nourish my body, mind, and soul? Here it is: the challenge. This is it. This is where we usually get derailed, isn’t it.

What’s the Solution?

1. Stop eating lab-created foods high in fat, sugar, and salt for at least 21 days. You will detox your body and you will stop all craving for them in just a couple of days. Sounds radical? Not really.

2. Eat foods that have energy and prana (the life force) in them — Foods that are alive, nourished by the land, that have absorbed lots of sunshine. A good rule of thumb: Did it grow somewhere? This leaves us with a lot of choices to plan our menus around.

3. Begin working on your belief and perception as to what is a good food. You can get on the computer and put in any food, and it will tell you what good or what harm it can do to or for you. Or simply begin to realize that you are a living entity and, as such, you need alive foods if you are going to be your best.

4. Pounds will fall off. And just for a last note: eating live foods (with portion control) will actually cause the pounds to fall off. You will feel better with more energy. You will begin to feel good about yourself and your self-esteem will increase which will loop back to more success.

How Harmful Is a Constant Inner Critic?

I often wonder, why it is that we have such a hard time accepting ourselves? We are usually our worst critic and often unhappy with not just one thing, but with many things about ourselves.

We have developed relentless inner critics that drive us worse than anyone out there would do.

Of course, the other end of that phenomena is to blame someone or something outside of ourselves and we see plenty of that too, but I want to focus on the serious inner critic that for many people can be so crippling.

The study of human potential is fascinating. Psychology has spent years in determining the ways and means that we develop and realize our full potential. Also there are hundreds of self-help books out there to attest to the fact that many Americans do believe that they can and maybe even should be more. So there does seem to be some inherent drive to evolve which can help us bring out our best selves, grow and learn. But at the same time, there also seems to be a harsh perfectionist for many that is never happy even with the process of our growing.

Do I set the standard too high or do I have a too low bar for what I will actually do? It’s a good question to ponder. Most of us would like to give it our best shot (at least a good part of the time) but do we ever feel like it’s out best shot? I think these are important questions to consider.

Criticism starts early in most lives with words like, should, shouldn’t, ought to, why don’t you, need to, must do. Our teachers and parents and everyone else who held some authority over us were probably meaning well and wanted to raise us to be contributing and conscientious members of society, but it leaves its toll on us. We can grow up feeling less than, needing way too much approval from outside sources and leaving us not secure and confident in ourselves. It can impact self-esteem and without good self-esteem problems arise.

If we feel too bad, we can end up with less than desirable behavior to numb out the pain of the harsh criticisms. We turn to a drink, reckless behavior or maybe food to feel better. It can definitely be one of the reasons for emotional eating. Since health, wellness and weight loss is my area of work, my focus is on turning to food as a relief from the hard words of our critical inner voice.

Are we destined to be slaves of this voice or are there alternative choices? What then can we do? Yes, there are lots of choices; but I want to focus on just two of them. They are such powerful and useful tools not just to use for emotional eating, but for other areas of unhealthy behavior. So what is this magic formula? Well, the two tools of this magic formula are quite simple but, of course, the challenge is in the creating of the mental habit.


pause and pose a questionThe first tool is called pause and pose. That is, pause before eating and pose some new questions.

As an example, you finished a project and the inner critic starts in. You could have done more, they won’t like it, I missed a key part, etc. Next someone asks a question that makes you conclude they were less than happy. Now the critic starts to unleash a verbal assault. Not only do you feel bad, but fear is setting in. An entire story line is being created just from that voice, without any factual basis.

But instead of listening, ask new questions:

Did I accomplish my goal?

What part of the project is outstanding?

Did I do my best?

What will be the positive outcome of this project?

Become a detective and gather information. If you then want to go into growth and improvement, ask if there was anything that might have been done differently to improve whatever.

This pause and pose tool keeps the critic at bay. It’s a re-shifting of the focus.


200 LikesThe second tool is to celebrate every little success that you have. The celebrating of small victories can be very helpful in positively impacting our self-esteem. To celebrate small victories we decide and actually look to find something that was good about every event! This can shift the focus from the feelings that can drive the binge. Once there is a shift, we can get back to some questions as the in pose and pause method.

What was so upsetting?

Was there anything else I could have done in response to the event?

Was there any other way to view the event so that it wasn’t so upsetting?

Emotional eating is frequently a result of not feeling good about oneself. Because of a strong inner critic, one gets sabotaged frequently. Then you feel bad. And then food becomes a form of comfort, at least for a while. It’s at this point that we seek the comfort of eating.

If you choose something other than food, it’s a success. You will feel awesome and celebrate how it feels to be empowered to make a new choice.

Once the inner critic gets a foot in the door, we often engage in more useless behavior and then feel worse. And that negatively impacts our self-esteem.

Jean Hausmann’s Guided Body Acceptance Meditation

Guided Weight-Loss Meditation by Jean HausmannAre you still holding on to your New Year’s Weight Loss Resolution?

Learn the most enjoyable way to let go of stress.

Here is my free guided meditation to keep you on the right track!

Enjoy your Monday Meditation!!

Find a quiet and comfortable spot and begin your journey to a healthier you!

 


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It’s Time to Change

Health and wellness include respect, care, and honoring our bodies, even though they might not yet be in great shape or a perfect weight.

This is the start to making changes such as weight loss. Accept your body as is, and still love it. It’s much easier to lose weight and get healthy when your body does not feel hated by you.

It's time to change!

If you talked to your friends the way you talk to your body, you’d have no friends left at all. It’s time to change.

Stop wasting energy on things and thoughts that aren’t good for you and your health.

Eat More Apples – Apples Are Good For You

Apples Are Good For You

Apples taste so good, but they are so good for us, too! Some studies show great benefits from eating apples.

1. Apples are filled with fiber, which has been shown to reduce intestinal disorders.

2. Apples reduce cholesterol levels.

3. Apples reduce skin disease.

4. Eating an apple before a meal has helped some women lose weight.

5. Apples are full of vitamins A and C.

6. Apples reduce tooth decay.

7. Apples reduce the risk of pancreatic cancer.

8. Apples boost your immune system.

Bad Day Eating: Don’t Skip the Next Meal

Chocolate and ChipsHad a bad day, or a bad weekend? What next? Continue this kind of eating and say, “I can’t seem to stop myself” or re-boot.

Commitment and persistence pay off!

Don’t skip the next meal. Just make sure it’s full of foods that support your goals. We all have bad days – I sure do.

Chocolate and chips are two of the more troublesome foods. One because of lots of sugar and one because of lots of salt. Both don’t do anything to nourish our body and yet, our body craves these types of foods.

We need to know foods created in labs are designed to hook us to make us need/want more so that we buy more. That can be helpful information. Do I want to be lured into buying and eating foods because they are designed to addict
me so I buy and eat more and more?

The answer, of course, is NO!